5 Secrets to Dating Success
Why some guys almost always get dates and responses to their personal ads and why some guys almost never get either.
by Robin Forbes
What's the secret? Why is it that some guys can pretty much get a date anywhere, anytime without any effort?
What's the secret? Why do some guys have all the luck with personal ads, getting avalanches of responses, while others get little to no attention at all?
I'm posing both questions in this article, because they're closely related and the answers to both are just about the same.
I've studied my own dating habits, my personals ads and the habits and ads of countless guys. The habits or secret formulas for dating success are surprisingly few. For the purposes of this article I've distilled them into five tips that any guy can successfully apply.
Success Tip #1 - Get out there and just do it.
I've said it before, but I'll say it again… If you want to score, meet new guys, have some sort of relationship; you've got to get out there and do something about it. That's just the way things work. You've got to get over your inertia and become a doer instead of someone who mopes around and does nothing to change or improve their situation.
Success Tip #2 - Avoiding negativity and criticism
Nothing kills romance or the chance of romance, faster than a negative or critical person.
Trashing your ex lover in a personals ad or in conversation with a date, is a surefire turn off. Guys get "creeped" out about this because the question arises, "What's this guy going to say about me if things don't work out?"
Here's another thing to look out for... If your personals ad or conversation sounds like a "I Don't Want or Like" list, prospective guys - great guys are just going to keep on looking because they'll feel like they're never going to be able to live up to your standards.
Success Tip #3 - Acceptance of Yourself
If you can't accept yourself for the wonderful gay man that you are, how is anyone else going to see that too?
You are a gay man, so love and accept that.
Regardless of what your social status is, income, your age, size, weight, how you dress, what music you like to listen to - whatever - You're still a wonderful gay man - period.
This shines through guys! When you talk to other guys, when you're writing to them, when you place a personals ad; acceptance of yourself shows through and makes you a magnet that other guys are attracted to and want to get to know better. Maybe it's for a few days maybe for a lifetime, maybe it's for love, maybe for friendship; whichever way, its powerful stuff.
Success Tip #4 - Acceptance of Others
We've basically covered this in the previous tips - but let me reiterate or put it into other words...
Acceptance of the other guy's way of doing things or of other men's personalities and lifestyle is necessary if you intend to ever go out with a guy. Yes, other guys aren't like you, they're not a clone of you, and thank goodness for that because life would be pretty boring if it were.
Success Tip #5 - Letting Go
Letting go of anything sure can be tough, but it's necessary. I can't address everyone's "letting go needs", so I'm just going to have to go with some gut reactions here...
Let go of your fears - stop letting fear get in the way of love, commitment and sex.
Let go of your preconceived views of the world. This gets in the way of so many relationships.
Let go of your tiny safe closet. Your relationships and your sex becomes infinitely better when you're not living in fear, (there's that ugly word again) of someone bursting open, accidentally or purposely the closet doors.
These very same tips to dating success helped me and they can help you too.
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