5 Reasons Why Some Guys Email Queries Haven't or Don't Get Answered
by Robin Forbes
Alot of guys wonder why their email queries to guys they've discovered online, or even offline for that matter, never get answered. Well wonder no more; because here's the top five reasons why some guys emails don't get answered.
1. The guy on the other end hasn't read your email yet.
This is quite common and it's probably the number one reason why there's been no reply to your email. There's dozens of reasons why that guy you're interested in hasn't read your query. Here are a few common reasons why he hasn't read your email yet:
- He could be wadding through dozens of other queries that arrived before yours.
- The guy might only check his inbox once a week.
- The guy could be on vacation.
2. You're a negative person or came off sounding like one.
Dark, brooding, moody people and emails from such types, turn other guys off fast. Guys just don't want to deal with that type of a person. You must be bright, cheerful and hopeful. If that's not the mood you're in when you write to a prospective guy, then you'd better log off and get your self into the right frame of mind first.
Another type of negative email that other guys will delete is the type that starts listing off all of the things in life that he doesn't like, or the type of guy he hopes you aren't, or all of the things he doesn't want in the way of a guy. If that's your style then you're going to have a hard time getting guys to respond - most won't even bother.
3. You mentioned your ex.
Mentioning your former partner in the first email is also a bad idea. It doesn't matter if you broke up with him or he passed away; stay clear of this for now. It also doesn't matter how you feel about your ex; all the prospective guy is interested in right now is finding a reason to respond back to you - or not. In fact, while I'm on this subject - avoid trashing ex's at all costs. It's a major turn off and leads one to think, "What's he going to say about me later on?"
4. The e-mail came off sounding like it was from a lost puppy dog.
Guys just aren't interested in dating lost puppy dogs. They want to meet and date new guys who are upbeat, happy, attractive, interesting, hot, funny, and maybe even outrageously wealthy. *grin* -- All of the above please! They want to be with guys that are comfortable with themselves and their situation.
What they don't want to date is someone who they'll have to play nursemaid, nanny, mommy or daddy, your ex-lover or your deceased partner to.
This is first hand personal experience talking here. I've been there - And You Can Beat It!
5. The guy just isn't interested.
Possible reasons include:
- The e-mail was a form letter; this is a biggie. If your e-mail is or looks like a form letter, most guys will instantly hit the delete button. Take the time to write a personal email to each individual guy that you want to respond to.
- You totally ignored the fact that the guy isn't looking for someone like you. It's amazing how many guys fail to read or totally ignore the fact that the guy they fire off an e-mail to has no interest in moving half-way across the planet, or prefers a certain age group, or isn't into certain types of relationships, etc...
Don't try to force a change in mind - it's a losing battle. Set your sites on guys that do want what you have to offer.
- "Your Guy", is busy pursuing other men that seem more suited to him. Just because you think you'd be the best match for him doesn't mean that he does.
There you have it -- 5 Reasons Why Some Guys Email Queries Don't Get Answered - And How You Can Avoid Having Your Email Ending Up In The Trash Can Next Time.
Avoid the mistakes and increase your response rate from prospective guys that are interested in going out with someone like you. And above all, remember this - There are plenty of guys out there that would love to get to know you better.
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