Christmas Holiday Dating Opportunities
by Robin Forbes
For many gay men, the Christmas holiday season is a "holiday blues time" and I don't mean that in a musical sense. Perhaps that's the case with you. I hope not, because the Christmas holiday season is a great opportunity to meet some really neat guys.
There are two dating tips that I want to impress on you:
1. Adjust your attitude to one of Joy.
2. Be available for holiday dating opportunities.
Adjust your attitude to one of Joy:
Whenever I start attracting a lot of negative people in my life, I've got to stop and think about just what type of an attitude I'm projecting. And then I slap my forehead and say, "D'oh!"
If the only guys you're meeting and dating are creeps, losers, angry, negative, soul sapping leeches then you need to have a good look at the attitude that you're projecting.
It doesn't matter what type of a relationship you're looking for - a long term or short term relationship. What matters, is that you're open to and projecting joy. It really does start with you. Your sexual, physical and mental health depends on joy.
Start implementing "Joy" as a daily part of your life this holiday season and you'll find yourself attracting cute guys of the same mindset.
Be available for holiday dating opportunities:
Sitting around waiting for "Mr. Right", or "Mr. Right Now", to show up at your doorstep just isn't going to happen... You know that - that's why you're reading this article. But knowing that isn't enough.
One of the really great things about December is all of the holiday socializing and dating opportunities that become available.
During November and December, there's a lot more plays to go to. The theatre can be a good place to meet new guys and it's also a nice evening for a date.
The next time you go to a play, take a good look around you. You'll find that many of the guys there, go from production to production. Since you're both going to the theatre on a regular basis, wouldn't it be nice to go together, rather than alone...? Use the intermissions to mingle and meet with these other guys.
Movies - Although I don't really recommend that you take a first date to a movie, I do recommend taking a date to one of the many movies that are opening during the Christmas season.
Although you may not find new guys at regular showings, a grand movie gala, preview or premiere could be a good time to find interesting guys.
Christmas Dances, Christmas Parties & Dinners - These are all great places and events to either take a date or find a future date. If you haven't been invited to any holiday socials or aren't going to host the social yourself, then find one.
Between now and January 1st there's going to be plenty of dances, parties and dinners that a single gay guy can use to good effect. Check out your local newspaper, including your local Gay newspaper, (if your area has one) for such events.
Go to your local gay bookstore, bar or coffee shop and check out the bulletin boards, they should be chock full of these events.
When you're at these events, actively mingle, and introduce yourself to the guys that take your fancy. I'm not saying "work the room like a politician"... Just be yourself, be warm and inviting, and look for welcoming and interested eyes.
Don't forget to take a pen and notebook to exchange phone numbers. Better yet, carry a small stack of "personal cards", (instead of a business card) to give out to interesting guys. These were popular during Oscar Wilde's day, and I think it's a perfect custom to revive.
By being Joyful and actively available to new dating opportunities, you've just positioned yourself for some really great relationships and a fantastic new year.
Enjoy the holidays!
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