A Short Guide to Body Language
How to tell if a guy is attracted and interested in you or not.
by Robin Forbes
Sometimes it's not what a person says but what they do that's important. A guy will tell you one thing but his body will tell you another - that's his body language subconsciously giving him away.
If you're at a total loss at figuring out whether or not a guy is attracted or into you, the following lists of body language signs should help decipher some of their signals.
You've got to be just a tad careful though... A guy's body language can just as easily be misinterpreted. A guy who appears to be really into you, receptive and showing attraction could be just be a really friendly guy who's interested in people. And a guy who shows some of the bad body language signs may just be a little on the shy side.
Another thing to be aware about is that not everyone is comfortable with more intimate aspects of body language. For instance leaning in or positioning oneself closely to some guys may mark you as overly aggressive or invading their space.
If you're a naturally "touchy feely" person or if you want to show attraction via physical contact; by all means do so - just try and gauge the other guy's responsiveness and don't do it too soon.
Good Body Language Signs:
Good eye contact = shows sincerity
Legs slightly apart = there's some attraction
Legs wide open = he's showing off his package
Gentle hair twirling (his or yours) = attraction and flirtation
Smiles with a wide open smile = genuine amusement (the good kind) or attraction
Smiles with dimples, laugh lines or crow's feet = genuine amusement (the good kind) or attraction
Touches his face, cheeks or lips = interest and attraction
Leans in towards you = receptiveness to you or what you're saying
Touches you = desire and attraction
Rolls up shirt sleeves, unbuttons his shirt or jacket = a degree of comfort and interest
A general sense of openness = sincerity
Bad Body Language Signs:
Piercing eye contact = shows signs bordering on creepiness
Looks away = insincerity, something he said isn't true or quite true - careful; the guy may just be shy.
Constantly looking around = disinterested, boredom, cruising or looking for an escape
Clenches his jaw = anger or impatience
Thin or pursed lips = anger or impatience
Nods way too much = disinterest or a short attention span
Crosses legs or arms = usually getting defensive but not always
Crosses both arms and legs = getting defensive
Holds finger to chin or lips = evaluation or sometimes criticism
Holds his chin in his hand = boredom, evaluation or sometimes criticism
Slouching/Slouches = boredom and disinterest
Thin smile = insincerity, anger or impatience
Shallow smile (no laugh lines) = attempting to look happy
Shifts the weight on his legs = uncertainty and nervousness
Drums the table with his fingers = disinterest and boredom
Rubs the back of his neck or head = tired, impatience or frustration
Thumbs clasped around imaginary suspenders = bragging, boasting or "telling a story"
Shoved hands in pockets = possible insecurity or disinterest
Hand clasping the other elbow while smoking = defensiveness or disinterest
Head pointing upward (eyes going toward the ceiling) while smoking = boredom and disinterest
Constantly playing with a lighter, matchbook or pen = nervousness, boredom or disinterest
Looking through you or around you = disinterest and sometimes defensiveness
Sources: - Years of interviewing and interrogation of complainants and suspects as a Military Policeman. - Years of bad dates (OK good ones too.) - And, The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating and Sex.
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