Being Bold With Men -- Take Action!
by Robin Forbes
How many times have you talked to a cute guy only to never see him again?
How many times have you wished that you could go out with that sexy guy you saw on the dance floor?
How many times have you wished you said something to that cute number, three tables away at the coffee shop?
I think it would be safe to say that if you're like a lot of guys I know, you have countless regrets. I for one have been in the same boat.
Being somewhat introverted I've had plenty of opportunities and dropped the ball on many an occasion. However, I discovered something years ago that's helped me overcome my shyness, become less of a wallflower and shed my meek image.
I used to go to the bars a lot as it was my primary means of entertainment and social life. And predictably, like so many other guys I'd go back home drunk, disappointed and without anyone...
...Until one fateful night, I decided that I was going to the bar to pick up a specific guy and I wasn't leaving the bar unless it was with that guy and we were going to his place.
I was tired of letting my petty fears get in the way of what I wanted.
So, I got into my best "I'm here to get laid" clothes, sprayed a bit of cologne for effect and went into hunting mode.
When I got to the bar I spotted the guy that had taken an interest in me all week; I walked over and sat down right next to him and ordered him another beer and a drink for myself. It shocked the heck out of him - he didn't know what had hit him!
We talked the night away about everything and nothing. I laughed, smiled and gently steered the direction of the conversation. It was getting close to closing time and the guy was trying to figure out if there was any chance for him of getting any action. I could tell by his questions and by his questioning looks and stumbling manners.
It was time to take my new-found boldness that extra step... Point blank -- I told him that we should leave and go back to his place. He did a double take -- "Really?" he said, "Really," I answered.
The lesson that I learned that night is one that I've applied successfully countless times since. It's also the same lesson that I applied when I finally decided that I was tired of being single...
If you want to score with a guy, if you want to change your situation, you have to shed your inner wuss and take bold -- decisive action.
Wishing you bold dating experiences!
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